WHAT IF WE INVESTED IN OUR LIVES LIKE WE DO IN OUR CAREERS?
This concept came up because I think I read a quote somewhere or this was a quote I’m not even sure but how amazing right? We focus all this time on our career which is great, a lot of people feel super passionate about their careers, they enjoy them and get a lot of from them. I know I do, but in the end it’s only one aspect of our lives. We are not just who we are at work we are sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, sisters brothers, friends, lovers - you get the point. You’re not just Samantha Smith CFO of Jobs R Us, you have depth you are characteristics you are your interests you are how you treat people.
I was having a conversation with a friend about moving and how I was scared of losing everything I had built where I was living, I felt I had worked hard to get the time slots I had and become a part of the community that was built by the studio and teachers I worked with. She said “if you view yoga as this thing that is a part of your life that you’ve delved deeper into and not as your career you’re not losing anything, it will always be with you and you will share what you share with 3 people or 100 people the number of people who show up doesn’t change what you’re doing. You’re more than your schedule and time slots, you want love and a family and you’ll always have yoga cause it lives inside of you but love and family are important and you need to make those a priority.” It resurfaced when I was asked to write out goals for 1 year, 5 years and 10 years, not just for my career but for my personal life and health. So the career goals were easy, I had about 10 years out in the corporate world where career goals and aspirations were constantly discussed and worked towards everyday. So when I was faced with setting my personal goals for the next 10 years it felt like I was less ambitious with my life. And yes my career is part of my life but it’s just ONE part. So I started to think what if I approached my overall life with the same focus energy and ambition that I approached my career? I want to be known for and experience kindness, compassion and love, how can I make those a part of my life daily? How do I need to change my focus and redirect my energy so that I can achieve that? So I thought about how I could be a more present daughter, a more understanding sister, a more patient wife, a more empathetic friend, a more committed yogi, overall the best human I could be. It’s not about being better or trying harder I was all of those things already but my energy and focus were 90% on my career and I was not investing very much in any other aspect of my life. It was like I only focused on on what provided me money and recognition - the stuff I could show or what people would see versus all the other stuff behind the scenes that really make up the majority of my life. So I made a decision based on what I wanted out of my whole life, I'm trying to be more present, looking someone in the eye when they talk to me, calling my family just to see how they are, listening with my whole self when talking with my loved ones, scheduling time with friends just as much as I was scheduling things for work, being more conscious of what I say before I say it so my words can be supportive and kind. spending more time on myself, reading and watching things that enrich my life, taking time off so I can experience rest and relaxation, eating delicious foods so I can experience what nourishing means, making time for friends so I can laugh and feel love and share my love. This is how I’ve committed to making my career part of my life and make my life as a whole the priority.